I was in a good season.
My marriage was mostly peaceful.
We were raising our family, and I had started reconnecting with pieces of myself outside of motherhood.

But then something unexpected happened—a dream I had poured myself into, something I was truly excited about, fell apart. It wasn’t a major crisis in the grand scheme of things. But for me, it hit hard. I was surprised at how quickly I spiraled into old doubts and fears I thought I’d outgrown.

Does my happiness even matter?
Am I alone in this marriage in ways I can’t explain?
Is this really as good as it gets?

That one moment—something as “practical” as a house decision—cracked open something deeper. Despite the calm on the surface, I was still aching for something more… not just in my relationship, but for myself.

I went back to a book I had read years before by Laura Doyle, but this time, I didn’t just sit back and feel inspired and hopeful—I invested at the highest level and started to live it.

What followed was a breakthrough.
Not overnight, but moment by moment.
I started practicing new ways of showing up in my marriage—and more importantly, with myself. I began expressing desires instead of seething in resentment about what my husband wasn’t doing. I took care of me again. I learned to receive instead of control, to listen instead of fix.

And slowly, I saw something shift.
In my husband.
In our connection.
And deeply, in me.

I realized I had spent years waiting for him to change, when the change I needed was in how I saw, felt, and cared for myself.

If you’re reading this and your marriage feels “okay,” but your heart whispers that something’s still missing—listen to that. That whisper matters.

Maybe you’ve tried to fix things.
Maybe you’ve done therapy, read books, tried the “date nights” and “communication tools.”
Maybe part of you wonders if your marriage is just too far gone—or not bad enough to warrant help.

But here’s what I’ve learned:
You don’t have to wait for a breaking point to get support.
You don’t have to do it alone.
And you don’t have to settle for less than real connection, playfulness, peace, and even passion.

You are worth the investment.
So is your marriage.

If something in you is stirring as you read this, I invite you to take the next step. Whether that’s scheduling a relationship assessment, listening to the Empowered Wife Podcast, signing up for The Empowered Wife Workshop™ or simply saying yes to the possibility that more is available to you—I’m cheering you on.

You’ve got this. And I’d love to walk with you.

💛
Coach Brenda

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